It's weird how when you look back on your life, some years it seems like nothing eventful happened while other years, everything seems to happen! The past 3 months particularly have been very hard for my family. There has been 3 different deaths when one normally is pretty overwhelming itself. My heart continues to ache for the losses and the families (including my own) that it effects.
So there was an earthquake this morning! A 4.3..or a 3.8.. the news is still trying to figure it out! I was already awake because Bekah woke up around 3:30am... so I was laying sown and when it happened, I thought that Ryan was having a seizure! I asked if he felt that and he said it was the wind.. which I knew it wasn't.. poor guy. He was so sleepy! :)
Well, Bekah Lee is doing good. She is really struggling with bowel movements. She is mainly still breast fed so I refuse to have dairy, spicy food, and chocolate but there is still a problem. She has a Dr. appointment on Monday so we will just have to see. She eats a little baby food almost every day (prunes, peaches). The poor girl! I feel pretty helpless and I also feel guilty when she can't go potty! I hope that she isn't lactose-intolerant..
We have family photos today and JcPennys! We have never had professional ones taken of just the 3 of us! Well, a couple during our time in Washington but that was during the family photo shoot. I'm excited that this will be our own thing in the sense that we can make it into what we want. We are also getting Bekah's 6 months pictures taken. Hard to believe this month she will be 7 months old! She is rolling from her back->tummy more which is exciting. No crawling yet but I am okay with that. We move in April to a 2 bedroom which would allow for a lot more romping room for her :)
I'm starting to work out again which feels so good! I think it will really help to build my confidence back up! I think when your a bump on a log, it's easy to feel bad about yourself.
Hopefully we will get the family photos up soon! I'm so excited!

To run.. or not to run.. THAT is the question..

A dream that I have always wanted to come true is to run the Chicago Marathon. Ryan and I are adamant about supporting each other with our dreams and he said that if I was to do it, that he would do it with me! Enrollment opened today.. it costs $135/person. I don't know too much about how it works for Ryan and I running together.. so I have to investigate. We would have to finish the race in 6 1/2 hours.. which would be about 15 minute miles.. which would be pretty slow for running so I know that we could do it. Currently we are out of shape. I ran cross country in high school so I know it's possible to run a long distance in a few weeks time. I remember doing a 10 mile run.. and though it sounds exhausting, I know it's possible! A part of me says "I enjoy being lazy and I just don't know if I will have time to train.." but another part of me REALLY thinks that if I want to do it, that NOW is the time. We were planning on trying for a second child at the end of this year/beginning of next year.. so that means I couldn't do it next year. I need some encouragement! What do you guys think? It would be a lot of work but the race isn't until Oct. 10. (10/10/10!!) It seems so impossible but I know it's not.. anyone wanna run with us? :)

~~This is me in high school with my friend Shannon down state for Cross Country :) ~~

A Heavy Heart

The loss of my nephew has been a real struggle for me.  I am glad that Ryan, Rebekah and I went to St. Louis as soon as he passed away in the sense that it made it feel real.. but certain things I encounter on a day-to-day bases makes me think of him.  His name was Benjamin.  It was a hard situation in itself due to the fact that it was my brothers girl friend who was pregnant.  It was a struggle with my family but we knew that we wanted to be apart of their lives so by casting them out from this was not an option.  I am struggling with guilt from some of the feelings I felt not only during the time of the pregnancy but the history even before then from years prior.  Since the passing of Ben, Sarah (my brothers girl friend) has graciously given us loads of baby supplies.  She said that she can't stand looking at them so she had to return/give away everything she had received from her baby shower.  As soon as she showed me the stuff, I broke down.  And even as I am finding space for it with Bekah's stuff, my heart aches SO much.  This was supposed to be for Ben.  How could a full term baby die in a mother's womb?  I do admit that when it happened, I was very mad at God for allowing this to happen which I am in no way proud of.  Was this the best situation for this baby?  Probably not.. but could everything work out fine?  Most definetly.  Then what happened?  What causes a cyst to form and explode that caused Ben to lose oxygen and die within the matter of minutes?  Even as I type this, tears poor down.  I am still struggling with his death.  I know he is in Heaven with the Lord.. I think my guilt comes mainly from my feelings of resentment that I regret full heartedly.  I had such a wicked heart with this situation..and it almost feels like it was my fault.  I know it wasn't.. and we may never know why this occured... but no matter what, he is still not here with us today.  My heart goes out to my brother and his girlfriend.. I couldn't imagine losing Bekah so close to her due date.  Just to feel her kicking in my stomach and then not at all.. I never want to question the maker of the universe.. and I trust that we have a fair and just God.  I do praise the Lord for the closeness with my brother and his girlfriend within my family that came along with his passing.  I may never feel that it is fair what happened.. and I don't know if my heart will ever not hurt from this.. that song from Casting Crowns comes to mind.  

I was sure by now,God, that You would have reached down 
and wiped our tears away, 
stepped in and saved the day. 
But once again, I say amen 
and it's still raining 
as the thunder rolls 
I barely hear You whisper through the rain, 
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls 
I raise my hands and praise 
the God who gives and takes away. 

Chorus: 
And I'll praise you in this storm 
and I will lift my hands 
for You are who You are 
no matter where I am 
and every tear I've cried 
You hold in your hand 
You never left my side 
and though my heart is torn 
I will praise You in this storm 

I remember when I stumbled in the wind 
You heard my cry to You
and raised me up again 
my strength is almost gone how can I carry on 
if I can't find You 
and as the thunder rolls 
I barely hear You whisper through the rain 
"I'm with you"
and as Your mercy falls 
I raise my hands and praise 
the God who gives and takes away 

Chorus 

I lift my eyes onto the hills 
where does my help come from? 
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth 
I lift my eyes onto the hills 
where does my help come from? 
My help comes from the Lord, the maker of heaven and earth

So as I scavenge around trying to find a home for these items that were given to us, my heart aches. Death is never easy but I feel like a baby's death is a little different from the death of someone else in the family.  I can't explain it and maybe it's just the situation this time?  I praise God everyday for such an amazing little girl.  I know to take nothing for granted.. and I feel that God has really shown me a lot during this time in my life.  

"Give thanks to the Lord always, and again I say REJOICE!" 

God has truly blessed us!

With a daughter as sweet as her, how could you not praise the Lord!? 

My first blog :)

I really want to keep people updated on my life and so instead of updates through facebook, I figured that keeping a blog might be better.

Ryan and I will be married two years in March which is absolutely incredible!  I never knew how intense marriage would be in the sense of love and dedication towards each other.  Each day I feel like I am falling more in love with him (is that even possible??)!  Now marriage has not been perfect as many may dream it will be.. but I feel like both of us have really matured in our relationship.  I do not regret getting married young at all.  I met the man of my dreams, the love of my life, and Mr. 99.9% perfect (Come on.. no one is perfect  :)   ) !!! 

So, I am also a Mom to a beautiful daughter we named Rebekah Lee.  We are so crazy about her.. God has truly blessed us!  We had a hard time deciding a name for her.  Ryan really liked Hannah and ever since I was younger, I always loved the name Rebekah Lee.  It was actually a nickname for my Dad's childhood friend.  As soon Bekah was born, she looked like a Bekah!  And so with the middle name, it was either going to be "Lee" or "Leigh".. We decided on Lee because Ryan insisted on "General Lee."  Anyway enough about that.. she is now almost 6 months old!  She can sit up for a few seconds on her own before toppling over!  She loves to blow bubbles and spit everywhere.  She has a tooth coming in which is exciting!  She is also eating some food such as pruns, sweet potatoes, and cereal.  She will be driving before we know it! 

Our latest family news is that first off, we are moving to a 2 bdrm/2 bth apartment which is SO exciting!  We have been saving money by staying in a 1 bdrm/1bth but we are really squeezing in here!  For a while, we had contemplated  buying a house but it really came down to not only finances but also the fact that we really feel like God wants us to be available for His will in ministry through missions.  Ryan and I have our hearts in Kenya and specifically for orphans.  With having Rebekah, it may seem like giving up what we have here and going over seas to serve would be hard.  And though it may be a struggle, it's not impossible.  I am not sure why exactly our hearts are there, but they are and so we trust God with that desire to serve.  We want to take a trip there January of 2011 for a few weeks to figure out if this is really where God wants us to be and how we can be used there.  We had planned to use our government refund check to buy our tickets.. but between medical bills and mechanic bills, I truly have to trust God to allow doors to open financially because I know that we can not do it on our own.  

Sometimes I wonder if God could use me.. I know I shouldn't question the maker of the universe, but I am just a simple person.  What could I possibly offer?  I am filled with excitement and questions.. but no doubt in who God is.  Please pray for us as our journey is just beginning.   :)